Conundrum Remedied

It's a conundrum; the very anger he abhors,
is aroused by contradictory premises.
The piqued reactions he declares that he adores
are the same and self, identified as nemesis.

Could it be that each of us possess the special knack,
to irritate someone with our persistent leaning,
to do or say the very thing takes them aback?
Is it in fun or has a deeper meaning?

May be that contradictory premise when laughed off,
may be material for knee-slapping private joke.
The temperance, then practiced, a handy skill,
to lessen or remove exasperation's yoke.